Sunday, December 26, 2010

Why can't unmarried black women find a good man?

I found this conversation fascinating. I am not African American, but the issues are relevant across races I think. The higher you go, the harder it becomes. I know its a lot of videos, but its riveting stuff. Enjoy!!

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Wednesday, December 22, 2010

Nigerian Christmas Music - 2010

So I had a posting on this last year and could not really find much to point to in terms of music for the season from the homeland. However, it appears that our musicians are beginning to step up to the plate.

My favorite this year would be this masterpiece from Tosin Martins. When  I saw the title "Silent Night", I groaned and wondered if it would be another cheesy remake of the classic song. Boy was I wrong! This can  only be described as absolutely brilliant!

Watch for yourself:




Tuesday, December 21, 2010

Delia Knox miracle

Hi folks!
I came across this story in one of Britain's most popular papers, and I just had to post it. There is a story in the book of Acts where Peter and John face the lame men sitting in front of the temple. He had been lame from birth, but that did not seem to stop the two disciples. Instead of silver and gold, they gave him healing in THAT NAME - the name of JESUS. And immidiately, the guy stood up and entered the temple - walking, leaping and praising GOD. I have always wondered what it would be like to witness something like that. Well, it appears that Delia Knox's story is the modern equivalent. Apparently, Delia is well known in christian circles in Mobile Alabama where she pastors a church with her husband. She has been in a wheelchair for the past 22 years. 22 YEARS! This past August, something happened. Watch for yourself:

Devotional: The name of Jesus

Why do we pray in the name of JESUS? Why is that name so powerful, so strong, so effective? I was reflecting on the weapons of our warfare recently, and I thought about the name of JESUS - and I just could not help but get into this song:

Wednesday, December 8, 2010

Church in the news: Bishop Eddie Long in Mediation

So I normally don't comment on 'he said/ he said" (in this case) issues because there is no real way to find the truth. However, this morning, I woke up to the headline that Eddie Long has decided to go into mediation in the sexual misconduct lawsuit brought against him by four young men in his church.

CNN has a video that summarizes the case:



Does it mean that he is guilty? Noo, but....

This dude here has a nice post on the way it looks though:

Bishop Eddie Long agreeing to mediation of sexual coercion charges is an end-run around the universally accepted moral and ethical responsibilities of any ecumenical leader. Mediation of sexual allegation grievances is tantamount to an admission of “some” guilt, “some” form of ministerial misconduct. Innocent folk don’t make deals if the claims against them are baseless and untrue. Mediation for the accused is a forfeiture of the right to ever claim innocence and readers should be absolutely clear on this point.


source

Its not a good look. It smells of all those Catholic church settlements and we all know how those turned out.

What do y'all think?

Hmmmm!

Saturday, December 4, 2010

Daily Devotion: Dealing with death

Hi folks!
Yes, I know, I have not been showing up everyday. Its not easy, please no vex. I will try to show up as often as possible though. One of my little darlings just recently lost her dad, and it has been a time of grief for our community here. We have rallied around her, doing the best we can to comfort her in her time of grief. And then this morning, I just happened to come across this news item:

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Apparently he was an active member of Nairaland, and they are still struggling to come to terms with his demise as seen in this thread. Condolences to his family and all who knew him.

The truth is that the fatality rate on earth is 100 percent so its something we all have to think about. How should we as Christians approach this topic?

With hope. Because we do not cease to exist, we just move on to a more exciting dimension.

Here is how Paul explains it:

I Cor 15: 35-56
35 But someone will ask, “How are the dead raised? With what kind of body will they come?” 36 How foolish! What you sow does not come to life unless it dies. 37 When you sow, you do not plant the body that will be, but just a seed, perhaps of wheat or of something else. 38 But God gives it a body as he has determined, and to each kind of seed he gives its own body. 39 Not all flesh is the same: People have one kind of flesh, animals have another, birds another and fish another. 40 There are also heavenly bodies and there are earthly bodies; but the splendor of the heavenly bodies is one kind, and the splendor of the earthly bodies is another. 41 The sun has one kind of splendor, the moon another and the stars another; and star differs from star in splendor.

42 So will it be with the resurrection of the dead. The body that is sown is perishable, it is raised imperishable; 43 it is sown in dishonor, it is raised in glory; it is sown in weakness, it is raised in power; 44 it is sown a natural body, it is raised a spiritual body.

If there is a natural body, there is also a spiritual body. 45 So it is written: “The first man Adam became a living being”[f]; the last Adam, a life-giving spirit. 46 The spiritual did not come first, but the natural, and after that the spiritual. 47 The first man was of the dust of the earth; the second man is of heaven. 48 As was the earthly man, so are those who are of the earth; and as is the heavenly man, so also are those who are of heaven. 49 And just as we have borne the image of the earthly man, so shall we bear the image of the heavenly man.

50 I declare to you, brothers and sisters, that flesh and blood cannot inherit the kingdom of God, nor does the perishable inherit the imperishable. 51 Listen, I tell you a mystery: We will not all sleep, but we will all be changed— 52 in a flash, in the twinkling of an eye, at the last trumpet. For the trumpet will sound, the dead will be raised imperishable, and we will be changed. 53 For the perishable must clothe itself with the imperishable, and the mortal with immortality. 54 When the perishable has been clothed with the imperishable, and the mortal with immortality, then the saying that is written will come true: “Death has been swallowed up in victory.”
55 “Where, O death, is your victory?
Where, O death, is your sting?”

56 The sting of death is sin, and the power of sin is the law. 57 But thanks be to God! He gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ.


I place particular emphasis on verses 42-44: Sown in weakness, raised in glory!!

Let that comfort you if you are facing any grief at the moment, or the thought of death terrifies you. It is not something to fear even though fear is our most natural reaction to death. It is something to look forward to after we have fulfilled our purpose on this earth. Its a life in a new, perfected dimension. Its life forever with GOD.

As we ponder these difficult but necessary thoughts, I leave you with one of the songs we sang at the memorial for my friend's dad just last week (although I don't recall us singing it this well! LOL!!). And to remember that either in life or in death, HE is always faithful.

Have a wonderful day!



I have always, always loved the Cece version, it just gives me goosebumps! But the Isreal Houghton version is inspiring too.

Wednesday, December 1, 2010

Daily Devotion: GOD will make a way

Happy new month!!

The title of this post is also the title to one of my favorite songs actually. It might be old school, may be out of fashion, but its like comfort food. I always fall back on it.

Here it is with lyrics for whoever does not know it:




Great song!!

But do you know where the inspiration for the original lyrics came from?

Particularly the bridge "By a roadway in the wilderness HE leads me, rivers in the desert will I see?"

Its from one of my favorite verses:

Isaiah 43:18-21

18 “ Do not remember the former things,
Nor consider the things of old.
19 Behold, I will do a new thing,
Now it shall spring forth;
Shall you not know it?
I will even make a road in the wilderness
And rivers in the desert.
20 The beast of the field will honor Me,
The jackals and the ostriches,
Because I give waters in the wilderness
And rivers in the desert,
To give drink to My people, My chosen.
21 This people I have formed for Myself;
They shall declare My praise.

Isn't that powerful? Rivers in the desert. A road in the wilderness - a way where there should not be a way!

Its like those movies - actually I caught the last few minutes of NCIS last night - where the bad guy had his knife to a victim's throat and was just about to slice it. She had given up hope, he thought he had won, and then from out of nowhere, shots ring out, at the very last minute. Suddenly the bad guy is dead, the 'almost victim' is safe and the officer who showed up is a hero.
I think they got inspiration from Isaiah 43 too.

There are many examples in the bible of GOD showing up to be the hero when all hope was lost - we have Joseph in prison, counting his pet roaches, wondering if life would ever change; we have David, wandering in the desert, wondering if he would live long enough to ever be king; we have Moses, set adrift on the Nile, his mother scared to death that he would not live long enough to see his first birthday; we have Esther, appearing before the king, terrified that he would say "off with her head!!".

They all fulfilled their destinies through very dramatic circumstances. I like to think of GOD as the original scriptwriter. And he does it better than all these Holly/Bolly/Nollywood peeps anyways! LOL!

GOD will make a way. Have a blessed day.

Ciao.

Tuesday, November 30, 2010

Daily Devotional : Fear

I have always thought of fear as a feeling. Because you know, something goes wrong, or you face some uncertainty, and you feel afraid - right? Then I had an experience with fear that went above and beyond a feeling. You know how it is - you are thinking about the situation, worrying, worrying, you go to bed, worrying. You finally fall asleep. But then in the dead of the night, when all is quiet, this 'thing' wakes you up. Its not just worry - its raw undiluted fear. It starts to speak to your mind at that time, and oh, the things it says! Tells you what a miserable failure you are. Tells you how you will not make it, tells you how your situation is irredeemable. Tells you how insignificant you are, how worthless you are. Grinds your self worth and self esteem into the mud. Hmmmm! If ever you are able to go back to sleep, you are discouraged at best, at worst you are terrified! Then I understood - fear is a spirit. Its a devilish, insidious, dark, twisted spirit. And you have to deal with it, the only way you deal with spiritual things - by the word.

When you are being tormented by fear, worry, uncertainty, loss - the unknown, uncertain future, know that you are not alone. GOD is with you. And you have the tools to deal with that horrible spirit.

There are a few major tools to use:

I) Speak the word. There are a few bible verses to use. Shout them out to that spirit. It knows authority when it hears it. It will back off, it has no choice. Which verses?

I Tim 1:7
For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind

That is the most common, and frankly effective one. Personalize it. claim it. Say it, believe it. I refuse to own this fear! It is not mine. It is not from GOD, so I reject it. GOD has not given me a spirit of fear!! Hallelujah!!

Instead of fear, go read some verses that remind you of the power and character of GOD Like

a) Psalm 27

and

b) Isaiah 43: 1-7

II) Music: I am a melancholic, a deep feeler - ( if you have no idea what that means, you need to check out the book spirit controlled temperament by Tim Lahaye). I identify really well with the biblical David, because dude knew how to encourage himself in the LORD (I Samuel 30: 6)

How did he do that? With psalms, hymns and spiritual songs. Even on days when prayer is hard, there is nothing like a great song with uplifting lyrics to lift your spirits. Nothing at all.

SO try this:




or this:



or even this:



Yes, Whitney Houston. That song can only be a prayer! It has gotten me through many a hard day believe me!!

I am not going to lie, I have a catalog of "songs for the night" (Psalm 42:8), and one day I will share them with you - music so powerful that it literally lifts you up from the depths. Good music - its an amazing tool for spiritual strength!


III)Pray. Pray as much as you can - it can be as simple or as complicated as you want it to be. GOD always hears you. HE will never leave you, HE will never forsake you. HE will always love you.

As the word says:

Phillipians 4: 6-7.
6 Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; 7 and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

IV
) Seek help:

Never be afraid or ashamed to seek GODly counsel. We were not made to walk this christian walk alone. Sometimes all you need is somebody to pray with you and you are able to see things from a christian perspective. Seek a GODly person to talk about your fears with and to pray with. Afterall, a problem shared is a problem solved!


Have a wonderful, fear free day.

GOD bless you.

Ladies Daily Devotional

Hi Folks!

Because of some stuff going on around me, I feel led to start a devotional on this blog. I mentor some young ladies, and the number one issue that has come up very often is "I don't know how to study the word" - or what to read, or where to start, etc, etc. There are many devotionals out there on all kinds of subject matters, but I am starting this one with my young ladies in mind. But please feel free to use it if it is a blessing to you. I am just laying the background in case anyone is wondering how come it is so touchy feely! LOL!! This will be challenging of course because I will have to do this regularly (as close to everyday as a possible), but GOD is asking me to do it, so I know HIS grace is sufficient.

Enjoy your day!

Ciao

Monday, November 22, 2010

Gospel Music Spotlight: Gabriel Eziashi

So its thanksgiving week in the USA. Time for family, friends and turkey right? Meeeh!
I actually think its an opportunity to praise GOD from the depth of our hearts for what who HE is and what HE has done. So, I will take the opportunity this week to highlight my very favorite praise and worship minstrels.

First up: Gabriel Eziashi. His bio from his church website says:


Pastor Gabriel Eziashi is the pastor of Milton Keynes Tabernacle in Milton Keynes. He is also a prolific song writer and recording artist and has as written songs like "Come On to Me", "Make My Life" and "Lord Most High", all found on his debut release album "Stand By Me". Originally from Jesus House For All Nations (a member of the RCCG), Gabriel Eziashi is committed to bringing the good news of Jesus Christ to people through the word of God as well as empowering worship experiences.

Gabriel Eziashi received the vision for Milton Keynes Tabernacle in 2005 whilst worshipping at Jesus House For All Nations. Over the years the ministry has experienced rapid growth.

As well as this church that he pastors, he is also a very much sought-after christian praise and worship leader as well as conference speaker. He is also known for his practical approach to the Bible and regularly encourages people to pursue a personal relationship with God through his son Jesus Christ. Gabriel Eziashi and his wife, Dayo, have 2 children and live in Milton Keynes.


I love his music. LOOOVES IT!! The song below, I play it almost everyday - I enjoy it that much! Check it out:



you can also watch him perform it live at Jesus House London, with powerful testimony preceding:



"I no get moni! You no want moni!!!" I tell you, one of my favorite praise songs ever!! EVER!! Always puts a smile on my face.

Okay, I wills stop gushing now. The album is called "Intimate moments" and it is available on itunes, and also on cdbaby here

Enjoy!!

Saturday, November 13, 2010

The queen is dead!

I saw this video on Sahara reporters, and I was so disturbed. So disturbed!!

What kind of suffering is this? Why are we so wicked to the least among us?




Lord have mercy!!

Thursday, November 11, 2010

Amazing technology, or just creepy?

This has nothing to do with the Africa or faith (not yet at least) but I could not resist.
So the Japanese, famous for marrying pillows and creating "personal" robots have outdone themselves this time. They have created a new pop star - in holograph form. Yup! See for yourself:



Is it a triumph for technology? Or is this something just strange and sinister? As if all the crazy pop princesses were not bad enough!!

Monday, November 8, 2010

Beached whale in Lagos

I do a little bit of research into food related matters in developing countries, and it is easy to think about food insecurity as an academic endeavor without really thinking about what it REALLY means.

Well here is what it really means: a dead whale ( I was going to say fish, but a whale is a sea mammal right?) washes up on a Lagos beach. What happens? Well, see for yourself:







That is poverty. That is food insecurity!! I am not an animal rights activist, so I am not up in arms about people eating a whale - please eat whatever will nourish your body. But a whole population happily consuming a decaying animal with unknown cause of death is a major cause for alarm. And where are the public health officials in this matter? What kind of government sits back and watches its citizens apply for diarrhea at best and at worst death? Because lets face it, we have no idea how this animal died.

It is so sad. Really.

Monday, November 1, 2010

Black people have a problem???

I know that I have not published for a while and I apologize most profusely to anyone who has been following my blog and dealing with my tardiness. I have been really, really busy, but I could not resist posting this. Gave me a huge chuckle this morning.
Tell me what you think of our dear Rev Manning. Is there some truth to his assertions? Something we are all thinking but afraid to say??

Say something black people!! Say something!! LOL!!





O jigbi jigbi!! Revd Manning will not kill me o. "You need to hear the truth, and I am gonna tell it!!"

LOL!!

Tuesday, June 8, 2010

Midnight crew in Minneapolis!

Hey people!
Enjoying your summer? You may or may not be aware, but the fabulous Midnight Crew has been touring the US this Spring and Summer, and now they are coming our way. Yes, they are coming to the Midwest.

See details in the poster below:


I plan to be there - what about you??

Enjoy!!

Thursday, May 20, 2010

Prayer, and the blessedness of possessing nothing

So I have had a rough couple of weeks where I have been feeling emotionally overwhelmed for many reasons. My first reaction was to throw a pity party, and complain bitterly about life. But the funny thing is , that is where GOD first started to answer me, even though I was not coherently talking to HIM yet. On the day when I was most down in the dumps and in a horrible mood, I got two most unexpected emails. One of them was from one of my closest friends who lives in another country now. I had not talked to her for months. She said she was just thinking about me, and wanted to know how I was doing. When I told her that I was having a wild pity party all by my lone self, she laughed at me. "Girlfriend, GOD does not attend pity parties," she said. "Hang in there, you will be alright." That was all I needed on that particular day. Really raised my spirits. The second mail was from another really old friend. We had not been in contact for over a year. Was also just thinking of me, wanted to write in and wish me well.

They were just being friendly, but for me on those days, it was heaven sent.

Lesson #1: When GOD drops a person in your heart, contact them and pray for them. You never know what that will mean to that person at that point in time.

I did eventually realize of course, that grumbling never did anybody any good, and so I took my issues to papa GOD for serious analysis. I started off by complaining, then by asking, then by claiming - all legitimate forms of prayer by the way. Then, I having exhausted all other options, I finally came to the point where I was able to listen, and surrender. There is nothing on earth like getting to the point where you just let go. Where you wrestle, and then surrender. It cannot be taught, it cannot be preached, it has to be experienced to be understood. The weight literally just shifts off your shoulder, and you make your peace with GOD and HIS will.

Lesson #2: Surrender is not something you say, it is something you do, after you get to a point in prayer where you touch heaven. As the bible says:

Eph 4:6-7
6 Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; 7 and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

Note that the peace (aka surrender) only comes after some real quality time with GOD. I am not a drinker or a smoker, but I fully suspect that the release people get from those activities cannot be compared to the release found in effectual, fervent, heartfelt prayer. Nothing like it!!

After that experience, I got home, and was led to pick up a book I have owned, but have not read for probably 6 years: A.W Tozer's "The pursuit of GOD". I am normally a speed reader, and its a little book, so I could have zipped through it in 45 minutes. But having just been taught the lesson about listening, I started to digest it in little bits and pieces. The second chapter is sooooo goood! Arghhh! Just fabulous.

The title of the chapter that GOD so eloquently used to speak to me today? "The blessedness of possessing nothing". There is nothing in there that I do not understand in my head, or that I have not even taught about myself. But this time, it just bypassed the brain, headed straight for the heart and stayed there. What was the basic message of this brilliant chaper?

"The way to deeper knowledge of God is through the lonely valleys of soul-poverty and abnegation of all things. The blessed ones who possess the Kingdom are they who have repudiated every external thing and have rooted from their hearts all sense of possessing. They are “poor in spirit.” They have reached an inward state paralleling the outward circumstances of the common beggar in the streets of Jerusalem; that is what the word “poor” as Christ used it actually means. These blessed poor are no longer slaves to the tyranny of things. They have broken the yoke of the oppressor; and this they have done not by fighting but by surrendering. Though free from all sense of possessing,they yet possess all things. “Theirs is the kingdom of heaven.”Let me exhort you to take this seriously. It is not to be understood as mere Bible teaching to be stored away in the mind along with an inert mass of other doctrines. It is a marker on the road to greener pastures, a path chiseled against the steep sides of the mount of God. We dare not try to bypass it if we would follow on in this holy pursuit. We must ascend a step at a time. If we refuse one step we bring our progress to an end.


You can read the whole book here

Don't rush through it. Chew on it slowly. The language of the book is simple, but the message is heavy. After all these years (it was written in the 1940s), you can feel the anointing in the words, they go straight for the heart.

Anyways, for anybody out there who is going through, wrestle your way through the darkness, fight your way through the fire, and eventually you will get to the place of peace and surrender. This message is meant for somebody, I don't know who, but I tell you, it is well.

And for those of you who know who I am in real life - I am okay o. LOL! GOD and I just had to have a little talk. We have made our peace.

Ciao.

Monday, May 17, 2010

Have you seen "Welcome to Lagos"?

So the BBC made this documentary that sharply divided the Nigerian audience. While some people felt that it was derogatory and small minded and petty and paternalistic and was post colonialistic (sorry, I am tired of blowing grammer! LOL!!)in outlook, others thought it was brilliant film-making. I fall in the latter category actually. Yeah, its washing of dirty linen in public, but it was very well done. The main argument against the series was that it did not reflect all of Lagos. Which is valid. But perhaps trying to make some kind of contrast documentary would have made things look even worse? Who knows? Anyways, the controversy has been raging for a while, and I think it was only replaced by the death of president Yaradua. If you have not seen it, check it out. It will make you grateful for what you have, and perhaps, to be more compassionate towards the working poor. Lord have mercy!!



The rest of it is on youtube. Check it out if you have time.

And yes, it appears that vocal slender's star is on the rise after appearing in that documentary. Dude is going to perform in London with Basketmouth. I don't think he will be on that dump much longer. Love a Cinderella story!!



Okay now, enjoy the documentary if you can watch it all, and drop a line to tell me what you think. Yes I know I am late, but not everyone has been following this story abi? Ehen now, if I was to first to break it to you, abeg drop a line and let me know what you think.

See ya!

Tuesday, April 13, 2010

First good look at acting president Goodluck Jonathan

So, he is currently in the US, has met with president Obama, and is now doing the publicity tour I guess. He appears to be an intelligent man, some of the answers are longwinded, and some are overly political, but in general, he seems to have some grasp of the issues. Our first Phd leader! Hmm. Yes dude can talk the talk, but can he walk the walk? Time will tell.

Enjoy:

Monday, April 5, 2010

How long will it last?

Even I think she's crazy.......

My Masai Mr Right: Why is this middle-class woman giving up a life of luxury to live in a mud hut with an African warrior?

Like many young women in love, Colette Armand believes she was hit by a coup de foudre when she first saw her future husband. 'The attraction was instant,' she says. 'We had an immediate connection.'

Photographs testify to the strength of their bond, showing a beaming young couple clearly delighted by each other's company.

That, however, is where the conventional nature of their romance ends. For Colette's intended is a Masai warrior whose home is a mud hut on the vast African plains.



Like many young women in love, Colette Armand believes she was hit by a coup de foudre when she first saw her future husband. 'The attraction was instant,' she says. 'We had an immediate connection.'

Photographs testify to the strength of their bond, showing a beaming young couple clearly delighted by each other's company.

That, however, is where the conventional nature of their romance ends. For Colette's intended is a Masai warrior whose home is a mud hut on the vast African plains.


Meitkini's tribe have no possessions and no running water, and their food is either plucked from the ground or killed with a spear.

Nonetheless, after a courtship of three years, Colette, 24, is preparing to abandon all the comforts of her western lifestyle to join her life permanently with his - even though, to date, she hasn't shared so much as a kiss with her 23-year-old fiance, as Masai rules forbid physical contact between men and women who aren't married.

What's more, she has to accept that, in the future, she may have to share her husband with other women, as Masai tradition permits any number of wives.

'In time I may have to accept that he will marry again,' she says. 'I hope he chooses not to take another wife, but if not then I will compromise.'

Colette admits that she never expected her life to end up on such an unusual path.

The daughter of a nurse and a businessman, her father's job, as director of a large mining company, took the family all over the world.

Academically gifted, at 17 she was studying literature at the Sorbonne in Paris. At 21, disillusioned with her studies and with a failed romance behind her, she decided to take a gap year - 'I realised I needed to have an adventure and try and find myself.

I had always wanted to go to Africa, so I found a job working for an organisation that runs orphanages in Kenya,' she says.

'In the space of a week I quit my studies, withdrew all my savings and got on a flight to Nairobi. I didn't tell anyone what I was doing, except my mum, who was hysterical. She thought I was throwing away all my hard work. But I'd made up my mind.'

So, within 24 hours, Colette had swapped the comfort of her apartment for a rug on the
Meitkini's tribe have no possessions and no running water, and their food is either plucked from the ground or killed with a spear.

Nonetheless, after a courtship of three years, Colette, 24, is preparing to abandon all the comforts of her western lifestyle to join her life permanently with his - even though, to date, she hasn't shared so much as a kiss with her 23-year-old fiance, as Masai rules forbid physical contact between men floor of the orphanage, which had no electricity nor running water.

'Yes, it was basic, but the funny thing was that I felt instantly at home,' she says. 'Working with the children helped give me perspective. Most of them had been abandoned because they were disabled, which was very humbling.'

Among them was Mumbe, a nine-year-old boy who, prior to Colette's arrival, had never spoken a word. 'One day, he turned to me and said "mummy",' she recalls. 'It was a huge shock, and everyone at the orphanage thought I had magical healing properties.'

So much so that word spread, and a few days later, one of Colette's supervisors told her that the head of a local Masai tribe wanted to meet her. The tribe lived several hours drive away over dusty, uneven terrain.

'When I got there I was taken to meet the chief, Kehmini, who was incredibly welcoming. I was lucky that the tribe spoke quite good English, so I could communicate well. Kehmini then invited me to stay, and showed me to a hut that would be my home while I was there,' she recalls.

Even after the privations of the orphanage, her first night was spent in insomniac discomfort. 'There are no doors on the hut, so I was terrified a snake would slither in,' she recalls. 'I lay there listening to every movement.'

The next morning she was further shocked by the harsh realities of life in the Masai. 'The only water came from a small muddy tributary that's home to snakes and crocodiles,' says Colette. 'I was too scared to bathe, so I had to resort to having a makeshift wash in water boiled on the fire - which is what I ended up doing for months to come.'

Nonetheless, she quickly grew to love the simple rhythm of life with the tribe. 'A typical day starts at 4am and ends at 6pm, when everyone sits around the campfire, and cooks and talks. You go to sleep at seven. In the morning, the men go out hunting and the women look after the children and work in the fields. The beauty of sitting under a vast African moon by the campfire, or watching the sun rise over the plain, is hard to describe.'

The tribe quickly took her to their heart, and after two weeks Colette was told the community had decided to sacrifice a goat as a welcoming gift - a huge honour.

'They slaughtered it in front of me, which was horrible, then put its warm blood in a cup for me to drink. It tasted disgusting, but I had to do it as I would have hugely offended them otherwise. I just closed my eyes and tried not to be sick.'

'My mother sees it as a family scandal and won't speak to me'

On other occasions, it was animal life of a different kind that was hard to stomach. 'One night I left the hut in the small hours to answer the call of nature, only to see a black mamba snake rearing its head just a few feet away. They are deadly, and I was terrified. My screams woke the whole camp, and men came running with sticks and managed to carry it away. I was still very shaken.'

But for all these privations, Colette soon realised she had no desire to leave - a feeling enhanced when, a few days later, she first saw her future husband while she was picking coffee beans in the fields. 'Meitkini was the chief's brother, but I hadn't seen him before as he'd been away hunting for several weeks. When I first saw him he was striding towards me carrying a lion he had helped kill, and he looked like this incredibly masculine force. I was smitten.

Later, when I was introduced to him by the chief and we started talking, it was like speaking to my double. He was clever and articulate, and there was an immediate connection. From then on I was in love.'

Meitkini, she says, felt the same way, but Masai relationships do not adhere to the same conventions as they do in the West. 'The Masai don't marry for love but for power and social position, so it is a slightly alien concept. It was a long time before we were able to acknowledge our feelings for each other, and we couldn't express them physically, as Masai rules forbid physical contact between unmarried men and women. It was frustrating, but I had to respect their culture. I was a visitor and it would have been a gross insult to behave any other way.'

Instead, Colette waited, hoping the tribe would grow to trust her. 'Five months later, Kehmini told me the community had accepted me and would be happy for me to live there permanently. It was a huge honour.'

Yet there was one final hurdle to overcome - Colette felt an overwhelming urge to finish her studies back home before she could commit to her new life in Kenya. 'It was tough because I loved him, but the intellectual side of me wanted fulfilment too.' Colette recalls.

'I talked to Meitkini about it and he told me he would wait for me.' Matters came to a head when, in October 2008, with civil unrest sweeping the country, a passing UNESCO charity worker told her that, as a white woman, she was in huge danger and urged her to leave Kenya for a while. 'I was scared but also upset - I didn't want to leave Meitkini, but he said I should take the chance to return to England and study for a while. There were a lot of tears.'

But there were happier tidings too: before she left, the tribe's chief gave Colette and Meitkini his blessing to marry. 'He said the whole tribe felt something special had happened between us and that we were destined to be together.'

Colette returned to England, moving in with friends into a small flat in south-east London, and quickly being accepted onto her PhD course. But life in the West no longer felt familiar.

'For three weeks, I barely left my room. I felt like a stranger in my own culture - the sheer noise of city life gave me a splitting headache. I realised I now thought of Africa as my home, and I was determined to go back.'

Unsurprisingly, her conviction has proved incomprehensible to many of her friends, who cannot grasp why Colette wants to turn her back on the luxuries of western life. 'Obviously, some of them have found it hard to understand - they just cannot conceive of what my life is like there. At the same time they can clearly see how happy I am, and none of them have tried to talk me out of it,' she says.

Sadly, the same cannot be said of her mother, who is still unable to accept Colette's decision and remains estranged from her daughter. (Her father's opinion isn't known, as he walked out on her mother when Colette was 12, and hasn't seen his daughter since.) 'The fact that I'm going to marry a Masai is a scandal in the family and, as a result, she and I don't speak. It's sad, but we're very different people,' she says.

And so Colette is making the final plans for her wedding. It will be a two-day affair, with Masai travelling from miles around to celebrate their union, and an ox slaughtered in honour of the happy couple. That, however, is where the festivities will end, and afterwards Colette will be back in the fields at dawn, planting grain or harvesting coffee beans.
'It's a simple life, and one that would be anathema to most people in the West, but it makes me happy,' she says. 'I have no problem with giving up my western ways. When I'm there I feel so alive and free. Living with the tribe has taught me to live in the present. It taught me what matters.'
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In this instance, I have to see reason with the mother. This is craziness pure and simple. Abi how you see am? Na wah o.

Monday, March 29, 2010

Shell Apologises?!!!??????!!!!!!!

Update: This appears to be a prank by The Yes Men (thanks mauricef3). A real apology would have been nice though!

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First of all, let me make an apology myself. I have not been blogging regularly, and I am so sorry. I know I have readers who keep wondering when I will update this blog. Sorry for the disappointment and the long wait, but now, I think I am back. I will try to find time to write, and when I do write for other sources, I will point you in that direction as well.

Having said all that, I saw something this morning that left me totally flabbergasted. I NEVER thought I would see the day - shell apologising for their Niger Delta operations? Knock me over with a feather!! First I thought it was an April fool joke. Is it an April fool joke? Actually, I still think it is an April fools joke. I cannot believe that any corporation will expose themselves to the lawsuits that are bound to follow that kind of declaration. Its probably some group with their own idea of what Shell should be saying. But on the off chance that it might even slightly be true, here is the video of shell's "alleged" mea culpa.



And the statement they supposedly put out:

The Hague, 27 March 2010

Today, Royal Dutch Shell is holding back the tears no more. Shell apologises to all inhabitants of Nigeria’s Niger Delta for the many years of human rights violations, for which Shell takes full responsibility.

Confronted with massive evidence of human rights violations that can only be attributed to its operations in the Niger Delta, Royal Dutch Shell is extremely proud to be the first international petrochemical company to publicly say:

We are sorry.

Since Shell first discovered oil in the Niger Delta in 1956, the company has ravished the land and polluted the environment. “We thought these people didn’t know what was good for them,” explains Bradford Houppe, Vice-President of Shell’s newly established Ethical Affairs Committee. “We never knew that we were bringing them impoverishment, conflict, abuse and deprivation. Now we know.” Shell acknowledges that it is responsible for large-scale oil spills, waste dumping and gas flaring. Each year, hundreds of oil spills occur, many of which are caused by corrosion of oil pipes and poor maintenance of infrastructure. “Our failure to deal with these spills swiftly and the lack of effective clean-up greatly exacerbate their human rights and environmental impact,” says Houppe. “And that is wrong. It’s just really wrong.”

More than 60 per cent of the people in the Niger Delta depend on the natural environment for their livelihood. But due to the oil pollution, many of them use polluted water to drink and to cook and wash with, and eat fish contaminated with oil and other toxins. Oil spills and waste dumping have also seriously damaged agricultural land.

The destruction of livelihoods and the lack of redress have led people to steal oil and vandalise oil infrastructure in an attempt to gain compensation or clean-up contracts. Armed groups engage in large-scale theft of oil and the ransoming of oil workers. Government reprisals frequently involve excessive force and the collective punishment of communities, thus deepening general anger and resentment.

Between 2005 and 2008, the Nigerian government received around $36 billion in taxes and royalties from Shell. “They have never, not in the slightest, held us to account for all the wrong we did,” says Houppe. “So without taking back any of our apologies, by all means: blame them too!”

A comprehensive Plan of Action, featuring general apologies, detailed apologies, apologies in Braille and apologies in rhyme that Shell employees will hang on the walls in their offices, will be presented at Shell’s Annual General Meeting on 18 May 2010 in The Hague.


Source

I am sorry, but I find it waaay too funky for words. I am not a believer. What about you?

Sunday, February 14, 2010

Special Nigerian Valentine day playlist

Today is valentine’s day. It’s a day set aside for appreciating that special somebody in your life. You know who I am talking about:


The one that makes your heart go KPO KPO DI KPO





Who whispers sweet and DELICIOUS nothings in your ears





You can promise to be her HERO





Or let her know that she is THE WOMAN





And to her, you swear allegiance TILL YOUR DYING DAY.





Yes ladies, tell him that he KNOWS what to do:





And dudes, tell her that she is TRULY your woman:





Tell them how they mean EVERYTHING to you :





Yes folks, its valentine’s day.


Tell somebody you LOVE them today.









You can view the entire Nigerian lovesong playlist here , or click on the left and right arrow keys and watch them all below:





You can also read the associated articles with many more songs here



HAPPY VAL'S DAY FOLKS!!!!!!

Thursday, January 14, 2010

Pat Robertson on Haiti earthquake

Sooo, in the middle of all the suffering in Haiti, we have a scandal prompted by some comments made by Pat Robertson, televangelist and founder of the Christian broadcasting network (CBN).

Here is what he had to say on the earthquake:

Pat Robertson comments

And the full text for your convenience:

PAT ROBERTSON: And, you know, Kristi, something happened a long time ago in Haiti, and people might not want to talk about it. They were under the heel of the French. You know, Napoleon III and whatever. And they got together and swore a pact to the devil. They said, "We will serve you if you will get us free from the French." True story. And so, the devil said, "OK, it's a deal."

And they kicked the French out. You know, the Haitians revolted and got themselves free. But ever since, they have been cursed by one thing after the other. Desperately poor. That island of Hispaniola is one island. It's cut down the middle. On the one side is Haiti; on the other side is the Dominican Republic. Dominican Republic is prosperous, healthy, full of resorts, et cetera. Haiti is in desperate poverty. Same island. They need to have and we need to pray for them a great turning to God. And out of this tragedy, I'm optimistic something good may come. But right now, we're helping the suffering people, and the suffering is unimaginable.

KRISTI WATTS (co-host): Absolutely, Pat.


His comments have led to quite the media storm, leading to this response from the Haitian ambassador to the US - dude was very visibly ticked:

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How do you even begin to say something like that at a time like this? Sensitivity training anyone?

Na wah o!!

Devastation in Haiti.

So its barely two weeks into the new year, and major disaster has already struck. I am sure that by now, you have all heard that a magnitude 7.0 earthquake struck in Haiti a couple of days ago, leaving apocalyptic like destruction in its path. Its hard to imagine the fear, the pain, the loss that people are feeling right at this moment. Unbelievable!

Picture: The presidential palace before and after the earthquake



Haitians piled bodies along the devastated streets of their capital Wednesday after a powerful earthquake crushed thousands of structures, from schools and shacks to the National Palace and the U.N. peacekeeping headquarters. Untold numbers were still trapped.

It seemed clear that the death toll from Tuesday afternoon's magnitude-7.0 quake would run into the thousands. Among them was the Roman Catholic archbishop of Port-au-Prince, and France's foreign minister said the head of the U.N. peacekeeping mission also was apparently among the dead.

"Parliament has collapsed. The tax office has collapsed. Schools have collapsed. Hospitals have collapsed," President Rene Preval told The Miami Herald. "There are a lot of schools that have a lot of dead people in them."
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A few more pictures:






There are lots of organizations that are working around the clock to get aid to the victims. Even if you cannot go, please send a donation. This is not just a Haitian tragedy, its a human tragedy, and it should touch us all.

You can give to any of these organizations to help:

International charities are appealing for donations to help Haiti. Here are some of the ways you can help:

In the UK:

British Red Cross

Christian Aid

Medecins Sans Frontieres

Oxfam

Save the Children

Plan International

CAFOD

Mercy Corps

Tearfund

In the US:

American Red Cross

Unicef USA

Doctors Without Borders

Operation Blessing International

The Global Orphan Project

These organisations also have ways to donate:

International Red Cross

International Medical Corps

World Food Programme

Concern Worldwide

ActionAid

International Relief and Development

I also know that other organizations like Compassion international are also soliciting funds for the cause.


LORD have mercy!!

Tuesday, January 12, 2010

The save Nigeria Rally in Abuja

Hi folks!

Happy new year. Been a while abi? Sorry o, I have had so much going on in my life ehn! But I just had to come out of hibernation and make this posting. In the past few months, I have not heard much to be proud of as a Nigerian - first we have a president who has been missing for 50 days and counting, then we had a Nigerian underwear bomber, then we were labeled a terrorist nation by the US.

There has not been much to be proud of for a while, but today, I was really proud of Nigerians. Honestly. As a people we have started to say enough is a enough to our band of crazy, greedy, irresponsible, lying, twofaced, so called leaders, that have been lying to us left right and center for so long. The event was the Save Nigeria Rally in Abuja. I am so proud of my fellow citizens, I could burst!!

Here is some video of the event, and of the so called message of our sick president to the BBC this morning:



There are more pictures of the rally here

The revolution has begun folks. We are tired, tired of being ruled by vermin! Tired I say. There are a series of other protests planned:

London protest .
Friday 15th January 2010
12pm
Trafalgar square, move to parliament square- then ends at Nigerian High Commison.
Nigeria House
9 Northumberland Avenue
London WC2N 5BX
Encouraged to come with Nigerian flag, Homemade banners, Dress warm . Contact 07984212553 or e mail info@nigerialiberty forum.org. uk London Metropolitan Police will provide security.
Key point for Protest - Where is Musa Yar'Adua, Nigerians are no terroristsStop the criminalisations of Nigerians,Fight against corruption and add as you may wish

Australia Protest
Tuesday 12th January 2010
Time: 12 PM
Venue: Nigerian High Commission Canberra.
26 Guilfoyle Street,
Yarralumla, ACT 2600Ph: +61 2 6282 7411.
Contact Abiola Falayajo Jr. abifas@hotmail. com for more details.

As I get more info on more planned gatherings, I will post them here. Please people go to a protest if you can. We have to send a message to these parasites and leeches - enough is enough.

GOD bless Nigeria. We shall overcome o!!